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A WISE WOMAN
The past few months Mylon and I have been teaching on Holy Matrimony and this month Mylon as asked me to minister to the wives. There is such dishonor in our society today for the marriage union. God, who is the Creator of the marriage covenant said that it should be “esteemed worthy, precious, and especially dear.” (Heb. 13:4) We must value holy things in order for there to be any growth. For many years I thought it was ok to “freak out” because I did not value peace. We can get to heaven “freaking out” but that wrong way of thinking began to cause problems in our marriage and ministry. To have something different, you must want something different. So when I decided I wanted a different life, God began to show me in His Word that He has called and anointed me to LIVE 24/7 at PEACE. When I obeyed His instructions, they set me free to enjoy life at a level that I did not know was possible! That is exactly what God wants to do for every marriage. He is ready to make our home on Earth as it is in heaven!
In the verse above, please notice that it is the woman God gives the responsibility to build her home. He doesn’t even mention men here! We live in a culture where the motto of the day is “Girl Power.” God, Who is the ultimate “equal rights” in Christ advocate, has given women a powerful place. Based on the Lexical definitions of the words above, it would read: “A woman who lives her life according to God’s principles, increases, strengthens, establishes and preserves her family, household and dwelling place. BUT the woman who revolts and openly renounces God’s Law to which she owes allegiance and chooses to willfully violate that law, pulls down, destroys and utterly ruins her family by her own power and strength.” She can’t blame her husband for this one. Girls, we got the power! Are we going to use the anointing to build our home or tear it down? How does a wise woman build her house? By OBEDIENCE!
God’s instructions to wives are reiterated in three different Epistles under the New Covenant of GRACE. Ephesians 5:21-24 says, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. For wives, this means submit to your husbands as (a service) to the Lord.
For a husband is the HEAD of his wife as Christ is the head of the church…. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.” Paul, the apostle of GRACE, begins by addressing the church body that we should submit one to another. What follows dispels any myth that leadership in the marriage is 50/50. Wives are specifically instructed to submit to their husbands in everything, NOT to men in general! The definition of SUBMIT is: “To yield, surrender to the power, will or authority of another; to yield without murmuring.” Please understand that submission is not agreement. Agreement means “of the same opinion.” Submission only begins when we disagree with our husbands but make the choice to yield to their leadership AND do it with a good attitude. I’m still working on that one, HA!
Another meaning of submission in I Peter 3:1 is to “adapt yourselves to them.” In the early years of our marriage, I kept trying to get Mylon to adapt to what I wanted. But God called wives to adapt to the husband’s needs, NOT the other way around. I was constantly contending for control and negotiating for leadership. The breakthrough came when I saw that submitting to Mylon as God’s appointed head and giving him the final say, is a service to The Lord. For example, if someone were to ask me, “Christi, are you submitted to God?’ Boy, I would have fought them over that one, fervently contending that Jesus is my Lord and Master. Then if they asked, “Are you submitted to Mylon?’ I would have answered, “Well, you don’t understand” followed by a whole bunch of excuses. In prayer one day, The Lord mercifully revealed His Word to me in a way that forever changed our marriage. He said, “Christi, you can’t BE submitted to Me and NOT BE submitted to Mylon because I am The One Who told you to do it!” Wives, please understand that in the same way we submit to Jesus, we will submit to our husband. If we are truly submitted to our Lord Jesus in everything, then we will submit to our husbands in everything. Please let me clarify that Mylon does not control or dominate me. He leads by example and continually keeps the Word of God as The Standard in our home. As far as I’m concerned, he’s pretty close to perfect! I chose obedience that day in prayer and submitted to the Word. From that moment of decision, God’s grace showed up and enabled me to do as a wife what I had not been able to do before! Glory to God, today I can testify that we have Holy Matrimony!
We would love the opportunity to encourage you and your family in person. Check our itinerary at www.mylon.org. If you are unable to attend, don’t forget that many church services are LIVE streamed. As you sow your precious seed this month, be encouraged that your seed is sending us to the masses through our soon to be broadcast TV ministry of “On the Road to Freedom!” What you make happen for others, God will make happen for you! Get ready for HEAVEN ON EARTH at your house!
We have God’s BEST in TEAM MYLON!
Mylon & Christi
P. S. Words cannot express how grateful we are for the privilege of ministering the Word of God to you. Thank you again for your agreement in giving and faith-filled prayers to support this dream for TV ministry. Don’t forget to enjoy the FREE resources available on our website and follow us on our fun social media sites! Together, we are making a difference for the Kingdom of God!
Sunday, Oct 1st Valley Word Church - Roanoke, VA
Wednesday, Oct 4th Faith Life Church - New Albany, OH
Sunday, Oct 29th Church on the Word - Douglasville, GD
For meeting details & our extended itinerary please refer to our website at www.mylon.org.